Ep. 10 – 3 Pillars of Life
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Ep. 10 – 3 Pillars of Life
Sometimes in life we miss certain pillars.
We simply stop caring for our physical or emotional self.
You can only love other people as much as you love yourself.
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Sometimes in life we miss certain pillars. We simply stop caring for our physical or emotional self. You […]
June 23, 2023
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Michael Abernathy 0:00
Hey what’s up everybody, welcome to THE a.m. I hope you’re doing well. Hope you’re doing well. I’m your host, Michael Abernathy. Welcome to 5 Minute Rants. All right.
So today, we are going to talk about the pillars of life. Last time we talked about the greater good, I think it’s important to really talk about this talk about the three pillars of life. In other words, these are the three foundational pillars of how every person works and is made, and how life works for us.
Okay, pillar number one is your emotional and spiritual well being. Pillar, number two is your physical well being. And then pillar number three is your family.
Now, here’s why they’re in that order. Okay. And here’s why family is number three, you cannot take care of your family, I cannot be a good father, a good husband, unless I’m emotionally spiritually healthy. And unless I’m physically healthy, right. And so in order for us to have that stable, foundational life, to really love our families, or really take care of them.
I’ve got to be emotionally healthy, right? I can’t Just sit there and yell and scream at my wife, because I get frustrated every time, right. And a lot of times, you’ll find and I will find that frustration comes from a place of wounds, emotionally, and things to get healed from, okay?
The next physical, I’m not going to be a good husband, if I’m not going to be willing to take care of myself and love myself and do the things I need to do, in order to actually maintain my life, to fulfill my purpose, my calling, to follow that greater good to execute against it. Right? If I’m sick all the time, I’m not gonna sit here and record episodes, if I’m sick all the time, and I’m laid up in bed because of poor decisions I made, I am not going to be able to take care of my family, I’m not gonna be able to care of my wife, I’m not gonna be around for my grandkids. Right, I think it’s important for children, to have that in my life, for me to be a part of their lives as they grow older. Right? When my kids grow up, I’m not going to be their dad, after they get to a certain age, I might have the honor of being their mentor one day if they decide that, but at some point, they’re going to be their own people to live their own lives, make their own decisions, and do what they want to do. And so it’s so important that I am there, and I’m able to be there if they give me permission, okay.
And so, those are the three pillars, okay? And what happens, and I’m going to talk about this, because I think this is really important. What happens a lot is, it is very easy in life, where we let certain pillars slip. We simply stop caring, or simply let things slip for those pillars, right. Like I grown up, I used to be in great shape, I was in awesome shape, especially in my early 20s and things like that. And then as I started getting into my late 20s, early 30s, I really got out of shape, and I got overweight, and I’m currently on the get un fat program, and been losing weight. None of my clothes fit me. It’s awesome. It sucks sometimes and it has been hard because that’s the thing is, that’s what discipline is, is hard and discipline is doing the things you don’t always want to do.
And so the point is, that was a pillar that slipped in my life. That’s what happens. There are times when I forget about my emotional well being there are times when I forget about my family, I Just don’t want to deal with it today. I Just want to be at peace had a hard day at work, I want to come home and Just it’s like a can’t, I have to have that forward momentum. And I continue to have to choose to be the man that I am saying that I’m going to be right.
And so as you move forward in life, as I move forward in life, those three pillars are the foundation, okay? And those three pillars directly tie into your greater good. If you haven’t, I encourage you to go back, it’s the previous episode to this one, go back and listen to it. Right. And so those three pillars are where that greater good is found from and you’re not going to achieve the greater good without having these three pillars.
One of our good friends in business super great man, super wise man. He’s like the way you change and grow and business is you change and grow yourself. And that is so true. No matter what your business is whether your business is raising kids, whether your business is being a dad, whether your business is being literally coach, whether your business is being a music teacher doesn’t matter. You have your business to take care of to run no matter what it is okay? And the point is, is if you are not going to take care of yourself, it will not take care of itself.
And so everything that you are, that’s what all your surroundings are. And so if all of that needs to change and if you want to see real change change in your life, change yourself and then all the externals will change. Change always happens internally first and then goes to the outside.
So that’s it guys the three pillars of life I’m over, so I gotta let y’all go. And I’ll talk to y’all later. Peace!