Episode Transcript

What’s up, everybody, what’s up, what’s up, what’s up. Welcome back to THE a.m guys. So real quick, just to jump straight into things, I really want to talk about friction today, and I want to talk about how vital friction is personally. And I do not think that a frictionless life is a great life, and here’s why.

And I’m not saying you just need to seek out pain and punishment and all this stuff and and run that way. As I go down this that’s not what I’m talking about at all. What I’m talking about is challenges, and what I’m talking about is being challenged. And when you’re challenged, there’s friction, and friction ‘s very present when you’re confronted with challenges, friction ‘s very present when you are outside your comfort zone. And I think friction is a very key, key piece to growth and change, and without that, there’s not going to be really deep levels of growth and change, personally, professionally, in business, in life, wherever, there’s not going to be that change or that that friction.

See, a challenge is something that we’re not quite capable of actually overcoming yet. Because if we were able to overcome a challenge or obstacle in our way, we’d already be past it. It already be dealt with. However, whatever’s in front of us is predicated basically on where we are at currently, both personally and professionally. Right? For instance, any challenge on a business hasn’t overcome the business hasn’t matured to that level to overcome it, yet, neither has that person or individual. And so I think it’s important to see that friction is one of those maturing processes, and it is one of the pieces that helps us mature, and it’s one of the pieces that helps us carry responsibility, carry the weight of that responsibility, and then be able to move forward to accomplish what needs to be accomplished in life.

Most of us, though we have the tendency to avoid friction. This is where short term thinking comes in. I’ve talked a ton about short term thinking. You do things for the short term. You don’t think through and actually have long term plans. You what you’re after is a frictionless life. Like, I don’t want to feel discomfort. I don’t want to feel uncomfortable doing what I’m doing right now. I want to be free from this, and I want to move forward without having to feel any sort of discomfort or pain. And then, as a result, you’re just in short term. And then as what actually comes out of that, and what is produced by that, is lots of pain, because in life, you either have pain now or pain later. You have delayed pain, if you think of it that way.

And here’s the thing, pain comes with interest. It’s not stagnant. It grows. Pain grows, and friction grows, and the problems that you have in life grow. Nothing is stationary or stagnant. In this life, everything is moving and everything is growing, whether negatively or positively. And I think it’s important to see like, cool. You delay that. It’s going to continue to grow. It’s just like, hey, I’ve got to cut the grass. My grass is long. Well, if you leave it for a week, it’s going to be longer, and then if you leave it for another week after that, it’s going to be longer, and then before you know it’s going to be so long that it clogs your mower and you actually can’t cut it. You got to weed the sucker first, unless you have an industrial mower. And so now it’s twice as hard to deal with because it got left longer.

And I’m saying that because I don’t think you should avoid friction or obstacles, and I do think that you should focus on them, and I do think that you should actually work to resolve them and then grow past that. It’s interesting how we as people, we will naturally procrastinate what is easier. And so that means, if you’re trying to solve problems, and you’ve got the number one constraint in your life of what you need to be doing, you start avoiding that, like we naturally avoid that normally, one of the key indicators in business of work that I need to be doing is, man, I don’t want to do that right now, right? And that comes out and it’s like, oh, this is most likely, more often than not, when I feel resistance to doing something or focusing on something, that’s the thing that I actually need to be doing now, not always. I’m just using it as an indicator, because you gotta have indicators in your life.

The other thing is, is as a team, and when I’m leading teams, leading people, all the time, it’s interesting, because I’m looking at Cool. What are we degrading to? The conversation started here. This is the problem, the focus, what have we degraded to? And what kind of problem are we actually trying to solve? Now, is it the original problem we started off in the meeting, and this is when we’re planning this one we’re building or creating.

And it’s interesting to watch how we will begin diverting to all of these other problems that are less important. And an example of this is if you have to finish something for work, oftentimes, and if you’re working from home, you’ll get up, I’ll go do the dishes. Or, for instance, there’s a lot of people you know you have to budget. You know you have to sit down and work through your budget and plan out next month’s budget. But instead, I’ll do the dishes, I’ll go make the bed, I’ll go I’ll even go work out. And so you have all these things that are important, but you’re avoiding the main problem, because we don’t want to have friction in our life, and we avoid friction.

So anyways, all that being said, friction is part of the maturing process, and if you don’t have it, you’re not going to grow the way you need to grow. We’re built to have the friction, and we’re built to be challenged, and it’s our job to overcome the challenges and grow.

Anyways, guys, I’ll catch you later. Peace.