Episode Transcript

Hey what’s up? What’s up? What’s up, everybody? Welcome back to THE a.m guys. Welcome back to five minute rants. I’m your host, Michael Abernathy. And welcome to the show predicated on the journey of life and business. Hey, real quick. If you guys know somebody that this show would help, or better their lives, would you partner with me and share it with them? Or if not, Would you guys mind leaving and rating the show, I mean, leaving the show a review and rating it. That would be awesome, guys. Anyways, I am going to go straight into this.

I want to talk about doing it for you. And Here’s the thought, oftentimes, we will get up and we’ll get up early, because we have somebody else telling us to do it. This just happened. I was talking with a good friend of mine. He used to get up super, super early, well he still gets up early. Right. But he was getting up way early, because his job required it like five o’clock in the morning every morning. And he’s getting up really early. And then we had a conversation because he got a new job. He didn’t have to get up. And we were talking about Hey, bro, why don’t you just do that for yourself? And it really sunk in that most of us are really willing to do something for somebody else. But we’re not willing to do it just for us. I’m not willing to do it for me. But if I have another set of eyeballs on me, or if there’s somebody that I want to impress, or if there’s somebody I want to show up for, I’ll do it for them. And I’m just gonna pause in and ask, doesn’t that sound broken? I care more about What other people think than actually What I think about myself.

I don’t know to you, but to me, that sounds broken. And I would much rather care about really, Am I honest towards myself? More so in I’m going to love myself. And I’m not talking about from a narcissistic way, because I think a lot of people have twisted the whole well nobody’s opinion matters. And I don’t need to think about it’s like, man, a lot of that is so twisted and narcissistic. It’s not funny. But this is really just an inner reflection. Like, wow, if you’re gonna get up for somebody else, why wouldn’t you do it for yourself? If it’s good for them Right? I mean, excuse me, if it’s really good for you, and it’s what’s best for you, you should do this. And I ask that question a lot, What is best for me. And normally, when I do things that are best for me, a normally tend to do and be What is best for others. And if I’m really willing to treat myself well to not lie to myself, and to be a man of my word to myself, to be honorable to myself, to be truthful to myself, to be loving towards myself, to be caring towards myself and compassionate, to be hard working for myself and towards myself, I tend to do all those things with others, because whether you want to or not, you always treat everybody like you treat yourself the golden rule is do unto others as you’d have them do unto you. And the thing is, we always do that, we always treat people the way that we treat ourselves.

So if you know somebody who’s toxic, well, that’s how they treat themselves. If you know somebody who is hardworking, and they’re really honest, that’s how they treat themselves. If you know somebody that’s trustworthy, that you can trust, well, they are trustworthy to themselves. And you can’t do it differently. It doesn’t work, it breaks every time. And the mask eventually breaks and cracks and shatters across life. You can only lie for so long before, what’s behind the mask exposes you, because whatever’s behind the mask, always plant seeds. And even those trees take a long time to grow. They always come from seeds.

Anyways. That was a long rant to do it for you. And so let me let me give you another example. Andrew and I had a client, we quoted out this price, we did the work. And then Andrew are talking about well, do we build for the whole quote, and I was like, man, no, we didn’t do all the work. Because it ended up being that the client only needed some of the work done. I was like, let’s just build for this. And he’s like, No, I don’t, I don’t think it would be about partnership. And we’re just had this conversation is like no, man, let’s do it for us. And he’s like, What do you mean? And I was like, let’s be honorable for us. Let’s be loving for us. Let’s be sharing and kind for us. And he was like, Wow, that’s so good. And then that went into an even better conversation, you know, that I don’t have time to go over now. But it really again, it puts out this thought like, man, let’s do it for me. Let’s do it for me, like you be honest for you, not for other people. And then if you really are caring about yourself, you’ll care about other people. If you really are loving, you will love other people. And if you really are selfless to yourself doing What is necessary, you will be selfless to others.

And Here’s a great quote to that a true leader is somebody who’s willing to put down What they want in terms of What is better for others. So I’m just saying that like if you are really choosing to do What is best for you, you will do what’s best for others.

And so anyways, with that being said, Guys, I’m out of time Catch you later. Peace