Ep. 0184 – Saying It But Hoping I Don’t Have To Do It
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Ep. 184 – Saying It But Hoping I Don’t Have To Do It
When we say “yes” to do something but our heart isn’t fully in it, we end up causing division and destruction. Nobody wants a lukewarm cup of coffee.
Episode Transcript
Michael Abernathy 0:00
Hey what’s up? What’s up? What’s up, everybody? Welcome back to them guys. Welcome back to five minute rants. I’m your host, Michael Abernathy. And welcome back to the show predicated on the journey of life and business.
So today, guys, I want to talk about something that a good friend of mine said, right, we were actually just hanging out, it was evening time, we just finished dinner, and we’re just talking. And one thing, she’s good family friend, and she said, You know, I say a lot of things that, oh, I’ll help, I want to do it, I want to do that I’ll do that work, I’ll do these things. But in my heart, I actually hope that I don’t actually have to do it, or that we’re not going to do it. So that don’t have to work or I don’t have to get up early. I don’t have to do these things. And that just really paused me because it was it was very, it set in very quickly.
Like that is so true. There’s been a lot of things in my life where I’ve said, like, Yeah, I’ll help you with that. Yeah, I hope my friends move, or I’ll do this for work, or I’ll build that I’ll do these things. And then hope, like hoping in my heart secretly without telling anybody else. I hope that never happens. I hope it doesn’t have to happen, I hope that we don’t have to do that. Right. It’s like, think about how duplicitous and destructive that is anything that’s not united. And that is divided, only results in tearing and splitting.
That’s how knives work. Anytime you cut something, that’s What division looks like. It takes things that are one and tears them into two. And so if you’re saying one thing out of your mouth, and there’s something else in your heart or in your mind, it’s going to not create whatever you thought it was going to create. And this is actually like, puts language to a lot of problems that a lot of people experience and a lot of people think and a lot of things that actually current people’s lives is because they’ll say it, but in their heart, they don’t want to do it.
And looking back, it’s like no, like before saying a lot of things. It’s like I’ve really chosen in my heart in a lot of ways to actually make sure that I do the things that I need to do. Now, there are times when I have said a lot of things and then cool, my heart hasn’t been in it. And it’s like you look at What I get out of that. I don’t get What I want to get out of that. It’s miserable. Cool, yeah, I’ll go work for your boss, I’ll go do this. And I’ll go work and get a paycheck. So I can pay my bills and will do great work and all these things. It’s like, Man, I hate this place. Oh, yeah, boss, I love it here. Man, I hate this place. I’ve done that before. I’ve done that before I’ve done things like that. And then I look at how miserable my life is, versus really choosing deep down inside. Like, you know What, I’m going to be happy while I’m here. This isn’t forever. But you know What, I’m going to be honorable, I’m going to be an honorable man, I’m going to be a trustworthy employee. I’m going to work hard, I’m going to show up to do the things I need to do. And then I look at the opposite, that different outcome that occurs in my life emotionally, physically, mentally, and even like in the relationship at that job. Wow, is it radically different?
And so this applies to everything. Anytime that I say like, yes, let’s do that. Or like, you know, if there’s work that has to be done, it’s like, Man, I really don’t want to do this and my heart is not in it. It results in negative outputs or it results in mediocracy and mediocracy. Mediocrity see is so bad, right? Think about it. Nobody likes to drink a lukewarm cup of coffee. It’s either iced coffee or hot coffee. Think about What Starbucks sells to Starbucks sell a lukewarm cup of coffee, a mediocrity, a medium heat coffee, know why nobody likes mediocracy. Think about how people vote with their money for drinks. No, there’s there’s not medium room temp drinks for sale. It’s hot, or cold. And the vast majority of people vote with their money for hot or cold. So think about that. It’s the same thing. In all other areas of our life. mediocracy kills mediocracy normally gives the guise of something that’s valuable, or might be the best, but it’s really not mediocracy actually results in a lot of destructive things. Oh, I’m kind of halfway in this relationship. And then I wonder why it doesn’t work out at the end, or why the other person doesn’t feel loved or wanted or appreciated, and the friendship falls apart. That’s mediocracy. And that’s What saying that but hoping I don’t have to do it. That’s What having that does in What it produces in all things.
And so if my heart isn’t to really do What I need to do enjoy doing What I need to do in love doing What I need to do, even though it might not be exactly What I thought that I signed up for when building a business, or creating a business or my relationship in my marriage with my wife or my friendships, it doesn’t matter. I said that I’d be all in. And now my heart has to line up with it. And really it should go the other way. It should be heart first in mind first, and then saying that and if your heart’s not in it, just have the balls to say no. And that’s really as simple as it gets. And then you avoid the mediocracy and all the destruction that comes afterwards. Anyways, guys. I’m out of time so I’ll catch you later. Peace.