Episode Transcript

What’s up, everybody? Welcome back to THE a.m guys, welcome back to five minute rants. I’m your host, Michael Abernathy. And welcome back to the show predicated on the journey of life and business. Hey, real quick, if you know somebody whose life would be bettered by listening to the show, would you partner with me in changing lives and share it with them, really appreciate it that or rate, leave a review for the show?

Well, today, I really want to talk about consistency. And I was talking with a close friend of mine. And they were talking to me about how they wished that certain people in their lives were more reliable. And when we were talking, I was like, No, they aren’t reliable. They’re just reliably unreliable. And I think it’s especially in leadership, when you’re looking at your team or when you’re working with people. And this is the same thing in general in life. All people are really consistent, right, they can consistently be trusted, or they can consistently not be trusted. And as a person is up to you to decide which person you want to be cannot be trusted.

Will I show up to help and show up when it matters most, most of life is just made up of showing up. If you show up, you’ve won like 90% of the battle, if you just show up to the starting line to begin the race. That’s the hardest part, not just the race itself, the race itself is the race itself is actually a lot easier than just getting to the starting line. And oftentimes, especially in business, it is the place that we lose the most time, the place that is most detrimental is that in between period of actually starting the race and starting that shipping and not moving at all. And so anyways, if you can just choose to be consistent person who just reliably shows up, you choose to be that type person, somebody who is reliable, in a positive way you add to people’s lives, you add to society, you’re not detracting from it, you choose to be that person and just show up, you’ve won 90% of the battle.

Now, the other thing is, when you’re when you are around people, you can’t get angry at them, if you know how they act. For instance, if you know that you have a friend who’s constantly late, how are you going to get upset and angry at them? You know, they’re late. So why don’t you tell them to show up even earlier? Why are you waiting on them? Right? You have a teacher who is consistently sporadic in school, they don’t take notes, they say one thing and then other things turn out. So you’re sitting there in class and going through all these things, it’s like, well, you know that they’re going to be inconsistent. So What is your solution to stop that? Just stop the inconsistency from hurting your life. See, you build solutions to in solutions include boundaries, solutions include actual processes, different frameworks, to stop those things from happening in your life, and for your life to move forward.

And so if you know that somebody is not reliable, if you know that somebody is not trustworthy, and you continue to trust them, it’s your fault. I’ve done this a lot, personally, I’ve trusted where I shouldn’t, and then I didn’t learn the lesson and re trusted. And at that point, it’s like all of this is my fault. And not saying that people cannot change, or that people cannot grow and choose to be something different they can. The point of What I’m trying to say is this, instead of just wishing somebody was reliable under your definition, you need to look and see that they’re reliably unreliable, and they’ve proven themselves that way. If you begin to look at that, you’re like, oh, I can plan for that. If you know that you have team members who are inconsistent with our work and don’t finish on time, you can plan for those things. If you run a team and you know, or, or if you’re actually under somebody running a team, and you know that there’s a lot of inconsistency, you can plan for those things. You can have conversations, you can become part of a team, and actually part of help building the team in a better way.

And I’m saying all of this, because it comes really back to the belief in the understanding that life is in your control your life is going to be whatever you want it to be. You get to build it the way you want to build it. You get to execute and do the things that you want to do in life. Oftentimes, though, we we find ourselves like being like, Oh, well, somebody else is in control. I have a boss, I have to listen to them. Yes, but you’ve made the decision to work there. And whether that decision was predicated on achieving your goals or not, or whether it was just like, oh, man, I need to pay some bills. The point is this. You are responsible for planning out your life and coming up with the steps to get you from point A to Z.

And you can have whatever you want. You can really build the type of life that you want. You can have the type of friends you want. If you’re hanging around friends that are inconsistent, don’t add to your life. You’re in charge of your friend group. And I think it’s so important to just see this that people are going to be people and if you know who they are, they’re going to consistently be who they are unless they’re really known for change and growth. Anyways guys Just some different, you know, a different take on things today. I’m out of time so I’ll catch you later peace