Episode Transcript.

What’s up? What’s up? What’s up, everybody? Welcome back to THE a.m guys, welcome back to five minute rants. I’m your host, Michael Abernathy. And welcome to the show predicated on the journey of life and business. Hey guys, real quick, if you know somebody whose life would be better by listening to the show, would you partner with me in changing lives and share it with them? I appreciate it.

Well, today, I actually want to talk about self control. And I actually think having self control is one of the most important aspects in life and skill sets in life. Because if you are not going to be able to exhibit self control in any given situation, it means that you’re not going to be able to make good decisions, you’re not going to be able to take appropriate actions. If you’re in a leadership position, you’re not going to be able to lead under high stress situations, you’re not going to be able to lead with in like critical moments, okay? And it’s very easy to seem like you have self control when things are easy, but self control really matters most, when you’re either in an emotionally charged situation, right? It’s emotionally and emotionally stressful. When you are in a very, I guess you could say critical or even dangerous situation. Self control is so important.

It’s also really important personally, because as you move forward in life, being able to tell yourself No. And being able to tell yourself, yes, at appropriate times really plays a huge impact and really shapes how your life is going to work. In business, there’s a saying that opportunity kills and the reason why it kills us because we start saying yes to everything. And when we say yes to everything, we open up ourselves to all the future possibilities and fires as well. So when we say yes, before we’re ready, it can be really disruptive, you can think about it like this, it’s like giving keys to a car to a eight year old are saying yes to them, they’re not ready to drive, they’re not ready for that responsibility. And then they wreck the car, they hurt themselves, they hurt others. And that’s why self control is so important.

Self control ties so much into patience, and having the patience to wait. And then to move when you’re actually ready to move, especially in business and leadership. It’s very easy to want the next phase, it’s very easy to want the next big thing, it’s very easy to want those things and then having that ability to tell yourself No, is so important having that ability to say no. And then to delay that gratification. So important.

One of the keys to actually having self control is to actually be What do you call it? It’s like emotional intelligence, you have emotional intelligence to where you’re able to identify, oh, I’m making emotional decisions right now versus logical and factual decisions. I would say that is one of the biggest keys to having self control, because you can stop and look at yourself and go, How am I actually observing the situation? And then how am I actually processing the information I’m getting? Is it going through an emotional process? Is it going through an emotional outlet? Or is it actually being processed logically. And the thing about short term thinking is short term thinking is normally very emotional, based in lack of self control often comes in when we are emotionally based.

And I’m not saying that emotions aren’t important or valid they are. But we are when we become led by emotions, and our decisions become emotionally based decisions in our faculties are now run by emotions, then at that point, everything in life is able to dictate What we’re doing, right? Because you’re going to walk into different situations you don’t like but they may be good for you. Right? It’s not always pleasant to do push ups. After you’ve already done a crap ton of push ups, it hurts. But it’s probably still good for you. It’s not always nice to just eat broccoli and chicken, when you don’t want to. And when you want pizza, and it doesn’t feel good. Notice the words feel. But it’s probably good for you. And so emotional decisions just because they feel good. Don’t always mean they’re good. And that’s part of the self control aspect is being able to say no to What you’re feeling, being able to step back, and then being able to look at yourself and say no, this is what’s best. And this is the logical path forward.

The other thing is, is most of us already know how to do this. So if a trick for doing this would be like stepping away into another person’s shoes, so if you stepped back and you had to coach yourself, because if you had coach your friend going through the same process to have self control, What would you tell them? You already know the answer to that. It’s most likely do we want to do it now? And often we use the words I can’t or I don’t know how or how do we do it for a replacement for I really don’t want to do this. And part of self control is being honest with yourself with What you really want to do and What you really don’t want to do and the reasons why you Want to do those things or don’t want to?

So anyways guys, I’m out of time for today so I’ll catch you later peace