Ep. 37 – The Best
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Ep. 37 – The Best
You’re the best you. You’re the only you.
Competing against others to be the best?
How do you measure winning?
What universal system do we use to measure the infinite game?
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You’re the best you. You’re the only you. Competing against others to be the best? How do you […]
July 20, 2023
Episode Transcript
Michael Abernathy 0:00
Hey what’s up everybody? What’s up? What’s up? What’s up? Welcome back to THE a.m. Welcome back to 5 Minute Rants. I’m your host, Michael Abernathy. Welcome back to the show, where we talk about anything and everything predicated on the journey of life and business. I hope you all are doing good and hope life is treating you well. Personally, I’m fantastic. I’m doing better than I deserve. So let’s just jump right on into this, guys.
All right. So I want to talk about this concept of you’re the best. And I think it is so important, just in general and in life, to really believe this, you are the best. You’re the best. You are the only one of you and you are the best one. And what that means is this. I don’t really know how you can compete against other people. Or if you’re in a business, how you’re actually going to compete against other businesses. Because what universal system do we use to measure that infinite game? That larger game, right?
Like Simon Sinek, I heard him ask this question once, how do you measure winning at marriage? And it’s like, that’s so true. How do you measure winning that marriage? Okay, how do you measure winning, and I think it is so important to see ourselves correctly and properly. Because when we get out of the belief that I am me, and I just need to continue to create and build in my life, and I start trying to be somebody else, or trying to be anything else but me, that’s really when I start losing. Because I start trying to do things that are unnatural to me that I’m not good at. That’s when I stopped self improving, that’s when I stopped looking at my weaknesses and going, okay, these are areas that I need to build up and work on in my life. These are areas that I should study, learn, and then grow in. And I don’t look at that when I’m trying to be somebody else, or when I’m trying to be something else. All my attention and energy goes towards that person goes towards analyzing them, looking at them, and then also trying to be them.
Okay, it’s the same thing in business. If you’re operating a business, and you’re just trying to compete, like let’s just say you own electrical business, you’re trying to compete against all the other electricians? Why are you doing that? Your customers are going to find you, the customers that love and trust you and the customers that aren’t good fits for you, they’re not going to find you, or they will and then you’ll find out that they’re not good fit. The thing is, is instead of competing and constantly trying to keep up with the Joneses which social media has really amplified in our lives. The game is now how do I just continue to create and build and progress in my life? Okay? We miss that a lot. Because we’re constantly trying to be, and I’m air quoting, “the best.”
Trying to be the best businessman, trying to be the best husband, or wife or trying to be the best mom or dad or trying to be the best student like what does that mean? See, winning is not just this universally defined goal and objective that every individual on this earth must achieve. It’s really personal. What does winning look like for you? How do you win? How have you mapped that out? And how have you defined what is winning for you, and on a daily basis on a smaller scale?
For instance, winning for me includes making my bed every day, right? A good friend of mine, my business mentor, known him for forever. One of the things that he really talked about was like, you know, making our bed every single day. And it’s so true. So what does winning look like for me? Man, I win first thing in the morning, because I make my bed, I get up, and then I go use the restroom, come back, and then I make the bed. And that’s it. I’ve already won. I haven’t even gotten, you know, 30 minutes into the day I’ve already won.
I’m saying this because we get trapped in this game of I need the next best thing. I need to look the best, need to talk the best, need to act the best. And we’ve never even told ourselves, what does that mean? I don’t know maybe talking the best, looking the best is being a loving dad. Somebody who loves their kids and is invested in their lives. Maybe that’s it? Maybe being the best includes like, you know, teaching like Little League softball or something. Maybe being the best is getting involved in your local community, things like that. It doesn’t have to be this massive, enormous glamorous journey, where I got to build the next Amazon or whatever it is. I don’t know what it is in your mind. But the point is, if you are constantly searching and seeking to compete with other people, you’re never going to really look at yourself and you’re not going to be able to move forward in the areas that you want to move forward in.
Every area that I regret not moving forward in my life. If there is any regret in my life. It’s simply because I tried to be something I was not, and that’s it. Then even looking at that I can be like wow, I actually really don’t regret that because I can choose to learn to grow from it.
So anyways guys, I hope you have a great day and I will catch you guys next time. Peace!